One life to live: stop being who society wants and stand up for yourself!

It's a bit overwhelming, I know.

Over the past, infamous '23 year, I have probably been so down in the abyss of my soul that I think, I could not go lower.

A year full of challenges (which have been going on since 2020), a year of self-reflection, and so many low points even in happy moments.

Even when I recall positive experiences and days, almost always there is a negative memory connected to it.

Amid the dark night of the soul (or should I say... the dark year?) I have learned, with baby steps, to slowly, calmly, and gently, reconnect with my inner self.

The trip of your inner self

It was far away, not listened to, closed in a dark corner where I was trying to keep it like a hostage, my inner voice was there screaming and trying to be seen and heard.

First, I started to tap on it by attempting to meditate, which was not working properly: my subconscious mind, now so used to living in a state of stress and fear, was working against me.

I was experiencing physical pain, anxiety, panic attacks (yes, this as well), heavy loss of weight, brain fog, and a complete loss of motivation.

With the help of Ayurveda, I have started to look more into myself, realizing that the key to this which was looking to me like a curse, was only inside of me.

It took me a full year to understand. A great help came of course through my therapist and body-oriented techniques which helped me visualize, name, and release stored emotions and trauma.

Then, it was like something had been unlocked: I could feel myself, I could tap into my intuition. Even if I was not fully aware of it, a well-wired pattern has started to change.

Small changes, every day, little habits, and consistent practice.

Life is calling you

When my inner self and soul were finally rescued, even if heavily damaged, I started to nourish them and take care of them: again, I tried to use meditation techniques, which combined with breathing exercises have started to make me feel alive again. It's an amazing feeling when, during meditation, you can feel so happy and joyous that your heart is almost exploding.

Back on the mat, I started also my yoga practice which I kind of left a few years ago. And together with these, I began to appreciate life in every little form: the smile of my kids, the sun rising, a flower trying to bloom even in the cold, a new friendship, a smile from a stranger.

And then, things started to happen. It was like my vibrations were calling and attracting other (good) vibrations.

Synchronicities, unexpected discoveries, opportunities. Life is Good.

Find, believe, and act on your true purpose

The more you re-connect to yourself, the more you become authentic, and the more you feel what is good for you and your energy.

Have you ever had the feeling that something is wrong, but you don't know what? Or, after a meeting with someone, you are left drained, confused, or eventually with stomach pain?

I realized how many times in my whole life this has happened. And now, I have learned how to listen to these signals. And yes, I also set my boundaries. Maybe, something is not good for me at that moment. Maybe, a person does not make me feel completely comfortable and attuned to myself. I always had the tendency to be a people-pleaser, and I was even proud of that, highlighting this quality during job interviews (Oh, I never have problems with my colleagues... when maybe I was going to work with nausea every day).

I know how difficult it is, especially for women and mothers, to prioritize ourselves. We tend to accept society-created images and meet certain standards, or we don't feel good enough.

Not a good wife

Not a good mum

Not a good girl

It seems that whatever we are doing is never enough. Isn't it?

I know very few people who are totally attuned to themselves, and they shine like the sun in August, in Italy.

As an (ex) people pleaser and with the immense need to help and rescue those in need, I have decided to put all of this quality and knowledge that I gained in the past years, into the service of other women and mothers.

I dream of an army of free women.

I dream of a different visual of motherhood.

I dream of a new generation of independent, happy, powerful women who will raise an even better generation, and so on.

If we learn how to heal ourselves now, we can ensure great guidance and a path for our children.

There is still Hope.

As a mother, I not only want to be the best example for my kids, but I want to be sure that they will be able to act and live their lives free from societal conditioning, true to themselves, and confident enough to go through daily challenges.

If you want to walk this path with me, let's have a chat. I will be waiting for you.